Whose Life is It?

How much control do we have over the quality of our lives? A lot? Very little? Our marriage, professional success, retirement, family relationships, financial wherewithal? How much depends on our doing and on our daily and momentary choices? If we believe that most of our circumstances are beyond our control and influence then surely we live under the illusion of victimization. We are like the inexperienced chess player - always reacting to life's aggressive tactics. But if we accept another possible illusion - that our own thoughts and choices are immensely, immeasurably important, then we might find that life is quite different. We might see each relationship to person and matter as an opportunity for generosity, wisdom and fulfilment. We might then see how great a role our moods, attitudes and choices play in the course of our lives and in the realm of the lives of other people. We might possibly find the life that is our potential.